Confront the mentorship gap.
Recognize where a lack of guidance, accountability, and intentional investment has shaped your life and leadership.
Coming October 2026
Become The Mentor
You Wish You Had
A Blueprint For Mentorship
Most people can name the mentor they wish they had. Few become that person for someone else.
An honest and practical guide to personal growth, godly character, intentional leadership, and investing in the next generation.
Chad does not write from theory or from a pedestal. He writes from failure, restoration, business leadership, marriage, fatherhood, faith, and the mentors who helped him rebuild what mattered most.
Publication
October 2026
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Why this book exists
Information is everywhere. Intentional investment is rare.
People are carrying leadership, marriage, parenting, faith, and responsibility while quietly trying to figure out the most important parts of life through trial and error.
Organizations have more leadership content than ever, yet emerging leaders still lack trusted people who will listen, challenge, encourage, and help them grow.
Families need stronger examples. Churches need mature disciples. Businesses need leaders who know how to develop people, not simply direct performance.
You may not have had the mentor you needed. You can still become the mentor someone else needs.
Inside the book
Lead yourself first. Then invest what you have learned.
The book helps readers build the character, clarity, consistency, habits, and relationships required to become someone others can trust.
Build a trustworthy life.
Strengthen identity, character, faith, integrity, and the personal disciplines that make influence sustainable.
Clarify what matters most.
Define meaningful outcomes, align with your core values, and understand the calling behind the work you are doing.
Grow with intention.
Use the FOCUSED Growth Framework as a practical tool for reflection, alignment, relationships, energy, and disciplined action.
Mentor without overcomplicating it.
Learn to listen, ask better questions, share experience humbly, challenge with care, and walk beside another person.
Multiply what you received.
Move from personal growth to intentional investment so your influence strengthens families, organizations, and generations.
I did not write this book as someone who has everything figured out. I wrote it as a man who has failed, been confronted, received grace, rebuilt his life, and learned that growth must become intentional.Chad Reelfs
Built from lived experience
The tools in this book were built because Chad needed them first.
After pride, misplaced identity, self-reliance, and a lack of accountability severely damaged his marriage and ended his ministry role, Chad entered a long process of confession, counseling, mentorship, forgiveness, responsibility, and rebuilding trust.
Those lessons followed him into business, where he helped grow Sojern from 5 employees to more than 600 people across 14 offices before a $250 million company exit.
The result is not motivational theory. It is a practical blueprint for becoming the kind of leader, husband, father, friend, and mentor another person can trust.
What leaders are saying
Honest. Practical. Deeply needed.
“Great mentors are not born. They are built through years of learning, growing, intentional coaching, and caring. I wish I read this book 20 years ago.”
“This book is honest, practical, and deeply needed. It does not just inspire men to grow. It gives them a clear way to grow day by day, with purpose, discipline, and faith at the center.”
“This is the kind of mentorship most men never get, and now it is in your hands.”
Who this book is for
For anyone ready to stop waiting and begin investing.
The book is written with a particular calling to inspire and equip men, while its mentorship principles serve leaders across families, churches, organizations, and communities.
Leaders and managers
Develop people with greater intention instead of relying only on direction and performance management.
Fathers and husbands
Strengthen character, family leadership, and the example being transferred to the next generation.
Pastors and ministry leaders
Build discipleship relationships rooted in truth, grace, accountability, and practical growth.
Mentors and mentees
Create shared language and a practical process for growing together.
Men building meaningful lives
Move beyond achievement and build a life anchored in faith, purpose, discipline, relationships, and significance.
Use the book together
One copy for you. One copy for the person you will mentor.
The book is designed to create shared language for honest conversations, personal growth, and intentional mentorship.
- Leadership teams and manager-development groups
- Churches, men’s groups, and discipleship relationships
- Fathers, sons, mentors, and emerging leaders
- Organizations building a stronger mentoring culture
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Publication is scheduled for October 2026.
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The movement beyond the book
The goal is not simply to finish another book.
The goal is to become the kind of person someone would want as a mentor, then intentionally invest what you have received into someone else.
One mentor becomes two.
Two become four.
Four become eight.
Over time, millions of intentional mentors can strengthen families, develop leaders, build healthier organizations, and change generations one relationship at a time.
Someone invested in me. Now it is my turn to invest in someone else.
Coming October 2026
Do not wait for the mentor you never had.
Become the mentor someone else needs.