Become The Mentor You Wish You Had

Great mentors aren’t born. They are built through years of learning, growing, and intentional coaching and caring. Chad Reelfs has lived this out, and in this insightful book he shares exactly how you can too. I wish I read this book twenty years ago! Don’t wait. Start becoming a great mentor today.

I am who I am today because a few key mentors saw something in me early on and chose to invest in me. They didn’t simply give advice. They helped shape my character, my faith, and the direction of my life. Over the years, I’ve tried to do the same by mentoring young men, and I’ve seen firsthand how the right guidance, given consistently and intentionally, can change the entire trajectory of a life.

That’s why Become the Mentor You Wish You Had resonates so deeply with me. Chad Reelfs isn’t writing from theory or from a pedestal. He is writing from experience, both failure and redemption, and offering young men the kind of framework most of us wish we had earlier in life.

This book is honest, practical, and deeply needed. It doesn’t just inspire men to grow; it gives them a clear path for how to grow day by day, with purpose, discipline, and faith at the center.

If you care about becoming the man God created you to be, or about helping another young man take that journey, this book will serve you well. It’s the kind of resource mentors can confidently put in someone’s hands and say, “Walk through this. It matters.”

In Become the Mentor You Wish You Had, Chad Reelfs vulnerably shares his journey, offering young men a raw and inspiring blueprint for personal integrity and purpose. His FOCUSED Growth Framework, REELFS Family Values, and Flywheel of Significances provide practical, Scripture-backed tools to combat distractions such as pride and isolation, while fostering daily habits for godly leadership. This book is an essential guide for anyone ready to lead themselves first and become the mentor they wish they had!

I know Chad. He didn’t write this book because it was a good idea. He wrote it because he has lived it, and paid for it. I’ve lived this, too, and I know fake when I see it.

Become the Mentor You Wish You Had isn’t theory or motivational fluff. It’s what happens when a man takes an honest look at his life, owns the places where he failed, and then builds something better on purpose.

Chad is one of those rare guys who is naturally a mentor, but who also took the time to understand how growth actually works, day by day.

This book feels like sitting across the table from someone who isn’t trying to impress you. It’s honest. It’s practical. It asks better questions that help you get to the answers you actually need. And if you are willing to slow down and apply what is here, it can change the trajectory of your life, and the lives of those who come after you. That’s why this matters.

“Chad Reelfs didn’t write this book because he had the answers; he wrote it because he lived through not having them. The FOCUSED Growth Framework and Flywheel of Significances aren’t concepts he borrowed: They’re tools he built because he needed them. What’s powerful is that these frameworks don’t stop with you; they’re designed to flow directly into the men you’re investing in. I’ve built something with Chad, and what you see in these pages is exactly who he is when no one’s watching. This is the kind of mentorship most men never get, and now it’s in your hands.”

I have had the tremendous privilege of watching Chad Reelfs lead within his business, his community, his church, and, most importantly, within the walls of his home. Chad didn’t simply write about focused growth; he lives it. I feel fortunate to have learned from his example, his teaching, and his life.

As you turn these pages, you will be learning from an author who has experienced both the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. Chad knows the agony of sorrow and heartbreak, as well as the pinnacle of success and victory. Two of the qualities I admire most about him are his transparency in sharing his journey and his willingness to give God the glory.

Chad doesn’t simply know who he is—he knows whose he is. He wears his faith openly and stands firm in his beliefs, fully aware that every circumstance, conversation, and moment can be used by God. It is this unwavering faith and perspective that have enabled him to remain committed to focused growth throughout his personal journey.

I’m confident that as you dive into this book, you too will grow in your faith and deepen your commitment to growth in your own life. Within these pages, you will find practical insight, profound wisdom, and the courage to pursue the person God created you to be. Cheers to becoming the mentor you wish you had and the leader you have always wanted to become.